tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174075085553614661.post5438401446079665775..comments2023-08-26T04:12:03.262-07:00Comments on Philo File: Maybe We Can Blame Dick and JaneShannonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03336520961342768543noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174075085553614661.post-23814728667500477442013-01-17T12:15:20.817-08:002013-01-17T12:15:20.817-08:00Regarding your side note, I just read this yesterd...Regarding your side note, I just read this yesterday in Steven Pinker's <i>The Language Instinct</i>, where he's talking about genders in the language of Kivunjo: "In case you are wondering, these 'genders' do not pertain to things like cross-dressers, transsexuals, hermaphrodites, androgynous people, and so on, as one reader of this chapter surmised. To a linguist, the term <i>gender</i> retains its original meaning of 'kind,' as in the related words <i>generic</i>, <i>genus</i>, and <i>genre</i>. The Bantu 'genders' refer to kinds like humans, animals, extended objects, clusters of objects, and body parts. It just happens that in many European languages the genders correspond to the sexes, at least in pronouns. For this reason the linguistic term <i>gender</i> has been pressed into service by nonlinguists as a convenient label for sexual dimorphism; the more accurate term <i>sex</i> seems now to be reserved as the polite way to refer to copulation."<br /><br />Regarding differences between girls and boys, I'm reminded of a professor who urged us to write a paper on how our society defines gender roles, because we don't let boys play with dolls or girls play with cars. She blathered on about how the environment parents set up for their children determines what the children will want to play with or the activities they'll participate in. So I asked her, if most suburban children -- girls and boys -- see their mother do most of the driving, why, generally speaking, do the boys want to play with cars but the girls still want to play with dolls? She said, "Huh! Interesting!" but provided no insight. I have my own ideas, of course, and one of them is that the professor was too black and white in her pronouncements.<br /><br />And finally, it's not exactly that we couldn't afford Barbies. We could have bought one or two, if not a whole bucketful. And it's true I didn't think we could afford all the accessories (clothes, cars, houses, swimming pools, beauty salons, etc) that are part of the Barbie Empire. It's more that Barbies bugged me with their impossibly stylized version of what beauty is. That wouldn't have bothered me so much 20 or so years earlier, when there were other sort-of role models to balance out the Barbie mystique. It's also partly that I would rather have spent money on other things for you, like "gender"-neutral toys, or books.LPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17729868050216828489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174075085553614661.post-87317614448388719292013-01-10T23:20:07.515-08:002013-01-10T23:20:07.515-08:00I think you know my thoughts on this topic pretty ...I think you know my thoughts on this topic pretty well. I'm still going to yammer on a little, though. :)<br /><br />As far as my current philosophy goes, the grandparents want to give, the kids love to receive, and as long as I'm giving my kids a pretty well-rounded education outside of their peers and Disney movies and whathaveyou, they'll be fine. They're a little spoiled, yes, and Rylie is definitely in the pink throws of princessy ecstasy right now, but it's also definitely a phase. It won't be long before her love of Barbies and princesses will be tempered by maturity and she'll love them in a different way or have moved on to something else. Since I'm using Rylie as my example I'll stick with her, but she doesn't have me worried. She has many, varied interests and is curious about all the world in general. <br /><br />About some of the other things, yes, the phrases, "something like a girl" do bug me. But I don't find it my place to correct people outside of my immediate family and as for Jared, I've made a couple of comments here and there. If I thought he really meant something negative by it or if Nathan was exhibiting negative effects from it then I would make a more concerted effort, but I decided near the beginning of our relationship to try and keep my nagging/criticisms to a minimum, since I'm pretty sure I do it a lot unconsciously re: grammar and pronunciation. <br /><br />Anyway. I try to educate my kids about commercialism and to show them both sides of the coin, so to speak. Then I let them decide on their own. Going back to Rylie, she often surprises me with her decisions and opinions. I've always known Nathan was interested in everything and has a voracious appetite for knowledge and discovery, but Rylie has shown herself to be a very funny, sensitive, and observant girl. I can't usually guess what she's thinking and I love that. Ask her sometime why she likes something and you'll see what I mean. I guess I'm just saying that probably most little girls are like that, no matter what their interests are. Fortunately there are very few adult women who still behave as they did at age 3. I guess the unfortunate thing is that the few that do get a lot of media attention.<br /><br />-MeganAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com